One of us
Many a times, we are caught in situations where the calling to make our speech are not forthcoming. For some reasons, Asians in particular when require to come forward to make their points just shy away!
In my opinon, such people probably do that in the hope of "one of us" would speak on their behalf. Just take my office, for example. One of my colleagues simply come to me for my listening ear, whenever things are not done correctly. Often, I would advise her to speak up to the person concerned so that her viewpoint could be heard and understood. Sadly, she has yet to do so...
Could it be a lack of confidence? Or just the deep-rooted notion that the other party of Cascusian origin always gets away, regardless of the mistakes he or she has made? I think it is likely to be a hybrid of both. In some, it could even be a host of reasons. Especially in Asian context, one has always being taught to do the work and speak less.
Rather than one sits there thinking the other person will jump in to clear the air, I personally feel it is more positive for the person concerned to discuss the issue with the other party openly.
What do you think?
posted by Pfeiffer at
12:35 AM
1 Comments:
Interesting commentary. It, i suppose, is a matter of training and probably the social setup. However, it is a habit that can be kicked.
This requires 2 things. One is the knowledge that the sort of behavior described is negative and unproductive and the other is the willingness to move away from the same.
With these in place, when one finds out ones flaws (either through self-perception or pointed out be wiser people), they can march toward progress with considerable ease.
But do we all do it?
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