Intimidated

Was assisting my colleagues to purchase plaques for a workshop overseas. As it was a last-minute order, the supplier has requested that we self-collect the items upon completion. Fortunately, I managed to induce the supplier to courier the items to our organization by today, so my colleagues could take the gifts with them to the airport tomorrow.

Then, I spotted an error. As it was too late to send back to the vendor for correction, I let it pass. I was hopeful that my colleagues would do the same after I emailed them that the delivery was just on time. I was in for a surprise! One of them called me to contact the vendor to resend a new plaque. I told him that I would try and it may not be possible given such short notice. Out of the blue, he said "Then I would sue the supplier".

At this point, I felt "intimidated" as I could not guarantee that the supplier could assist the replacement by tomorrow. Thankfully, the negotiation turned out smoothly and I shall spare you of the details.

My point is one does not need to overawe anybody in order to get things done (whether he is joking or not). In my opinion, it is definitely more fruitful when the issue/s could be communicated to the other party in a calm manner. Feeling the guilt, the person at fault would be more inclined to rectify to his best efforts. I believe this could be applied on a personal basis too. What would be your approach?

Sing A Long Song

People change. Or rather as one friend puts it "You don't need to change who you are, Change your perspective and you will change the world." It's human nature, most will agree.

Yesterday's perfect couple may not be on talking terms, or even on the path of separation. Change is the only constant thing. After catching up with some friends yesterday (including one who is going through the divorce), I have reaffirmed this notion.

Perhaps, what is real in a relationship would be the happy moments that both partners shared. So when one of them has a diffrent perspective (for better or worst), it is time to part and move on. Afterall, one only lives once and deserves to enjoy a better life.

Sadly, this is especially when the person no longer or refuses to communicate his/her thoughts about the current issue/s that are troubling to the relationship. Hence, time would be more well-spent improving oneself:) If it is difficult, try humming to "sing a long song" below:

I wrote this song.
It's not too long.
Cause I've been thinking about you.
I wrote this song.
Maybe I'm wrong,
to be caught up about you.
I don't know what do you think about me.
Maybe you think nothing at all.

If I Were A Boy

Sometimes, I wonder if my life would pan out differently if I am a boy. I mean I can do the following list of things freely - not ranked in any order of importance:

1) Be topless
2) Dress the way I like to a wedding dinner(without the concern that someone may sport the same look)
3) Come home late/stay overnight without being questioned
4) Eat heartily
5) Enjoy the quiet moments by myself in a restaurant (without being labelled as a "bachelorette"
6) Not bother by number since guys appreciate in value as they age
7) Not shower for a few days
8) Swear whenever I wish to
9) Travel around the globe on a bike
10)Woo after the person I like with no reservations

For point 6, men seem to "appreciate" as they age because they are evaluated by their level of success. Women, on the other hand, are judged by their physical beauty, which undermine with age. I am open for debate.

My Friends

Took a lift from my colleague from work to city today. To be specific, he is my regular driver to and back from work. Simply, my partner in the car-pool arrangement. As time passes by, we have progress from co-workers to friends.

Now, have you ever wondered how someone evolves from being an acquaintance to a friend? In my opinion, I can define a friend with the following criteria, first and second of them must be met including:

1. Someone who confides a secret in you.

2. Someone who is willing to do a favor for you.

3. Someone who is willing to spend time with you.

4. Someone who shares the same humour.

Personally, I feel a secret induces the recipient of the secret to be bonded to you. Also, it portrays the giver of the secret in a trusting position and it changes the receiver into a protector.

On the second rule, we do favors even to strangers sometimes, without any expectation of becoming friends. However, we never share any secrets with acquaintances. It is the combination of the secret and the favor that sees the acquaintance turning into a friend. Do you concur?